The depth-bond — the partnership that had gone all the way down into the shared shadow material, the relationship where two had each become each other's most-trusted depth-partner, the bond that had crossed the thresholds most people never go near. Hylonome in Scorpio names the kind of bond where two had become the only people in each other's lives who knew certain unspeakable shared experiences — and where the loss of the other leaves the survivor as the sole carrier of the depth-material both had previously held together.
Hylonome in Scorpio names the conscious-grief of the depth-partner who has lost her depth-companion. She is the survivor of a couple who together survived something nobody else could be told, whose continuing carrying of the shared experience is now solitary. She is the depth-worker whose long-time co-facilitator died and whose continuing work in the depth-register must now be done without the colleague who shared the necessary debriefing. She is the sister whose sister was the only other person inside the family's un-named history and whose continuing carrying of that history is now a one-person responsibility. The Scorpio-Hylonome medicine is the conscious selection of one or two trusted depth-witnesses — therapists, ritual-elders, depth-peers — to whom carefully chosen pieces of the shared material can be entrusted, so the survivor is not the sole carrier of what she cannot quite hold alone.
The depth-bond — the partnership that had gone all the way down into the shared shadow material, the relationship where two had each become each other's most-trusted depth-partner, the bond that had crossed the thresholds most people never go near. Hylonome in Scorpio names the kind of bond where two had become the only people in each other's lives who knew certain unspeakable shared experiences — and where the loss of the other leaves the survivor as the sole carrier of the depth-material both had previously held together.
The grief is the weight of being the only remaining keeper of the unspeakable. Scorpio-Hylonome grief is the conscious work of carrying alone what was previously carried together — the secret, the shared trauma, the shared revelation, the shared depth-experience that nobody else was inside — and the slow honest reckoning with whether and how any of it can ever be entrusted to another.